I used to be afraid of setting boundaries, mainly out of fear, but mostly because I was out of practice, or did I ever practice even? I was fearful of hurting, upsetting, disappointing, worried I would come across as being selfish, you name it the list goes on and on. I did have boundaries […]
Category: Having a word with me sen
How do you protect your kids from their dad?
I left my partner over 25 years ago, but he is still there, I am still tethered by him through my kids. After years of manipulation, possessiveness, emotional blackmail, it took me years to heal from the emotionally abusive relationship, to psychologically heal. Whilst I have healed and moved on years later, I find I […]
Yeah I’m clean but my poetry’s not!
Emj is a talented artist and has come a long way from the very first time I met her at one of our recovery months, ride for recovery events, she was halfway through her detox and staying at Phoenix House. The other day I caught up with her, she has been living independently now […]
Learning to live with fear
Fear it is the instinct that protects us from real dangers, fear activates our fight-or-flight responses but a lot of the time our fear can be a response to imaginary dangers too, be fearful of dangers that only exist in our minds. I wanted to share my recent episode of fear with you… I […]
Looking back on your life ask yourself If you didn’t know any different, how are you supposed to know?
Over recent weeks I have met a number of people who are still suffering from issues, things in their past (particularly from childhood) that still affects them in the present day… Angry with themselves for choices they made in the past Carrying blame and shame from the choices they made in the past Angry at […]
The insomnia witch, bitch paid a visit last night
But it’s not all bad, I woke early this morning inspired to write, a new spring in my step, a new theme for the book… To say the past few weeks have been pretty hectic would be an understatement, with so much going on with work, family, life… I have found it difficult to find […]
To give or not to give – A twentieth-century moral dilemma
Unless you shop in an indoor shopping center or physically blind it is near impossible to go about your daily business without seeing evidence of deprivation, the vulnerability that exists in today’s society. Individuals sat passively begging, sat with a cup in front of them, wrapped in a sleeping bag, small groups gathering […]
A Thank you letter
So this week has been a busy one After a weekend of catching up and reminiscing about the good old days and the not so good old days with family from dad’s side. On Tuesday I attended my first Novel Slam! Call it a sort of X factor for budding writers a chance to pitch […]
Peri meni & me
I have always kinda looked forward to the menopause, the final change that my body will go through. Looking forward to the day when the endless cycles of monthly periods fuck off, meaning in my head… No more Tampax No more worrying about pregnancy No more flooding No more carrying spare pants during the time […]
#Shithappens – Then more shit happens…
I wanted to share openly about my own experience of coming to terms and living with being peri-menopausal, I have written this and I am sharing this because this weeks experience is still raw and I am still coming to terms with the fact that as well as impacting on my personal life, that this […]
