On the inside I would be made up of colourful layers, laced with buttercream and covered in marzipan and a royal icing layer. We aren’t born anxious, scared or consumed with self-doubt, this is learned behaviour, reactions to past traumatic events. The ingredients in my cake contain acts, and scenarios that have festered in […]
Category: Having a word with me sen
Letting go of Anger…
Haruki Murakami was quoted as saying that “once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive…But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in” This quote resonates with me, but what Haruki doesn’t mention […]
What was your Shirley Moment?
I watched Shirley valentine over Christmas; it was a welcome distraction from the boredom that comes in between Christmas Day and New Year, I laughed at her talking to the wall because I realised that used to me! I’ve always questioned everything; even as a kid, although I rarely voiced any of it because it […]
A Christmas Recovery Tale
This recovery journey started on 3rd of December 2015 when I received a private message via Facebook… “Hi Tracey, its Adam Holmes, hope u don’t mind me massaging I just had my interview at Arc house yesterday been accepted just waiting to do my methadone detox on Burbidge I’ve been four weeks on Saturday off […]
Book & Life Update
Well, it’s been a fucking crazy year hasn’t it? who would have thought this time last year, some of us would be having to self-isolate at home and especially over Christmas. I however, have found myself embracing the change if I’m honest, COVID has provided me with some much needed ‘time to think’ and […]
Christmas is coming… Check yourself before you wreck yourself
People look forward or dread Christmas day for many reasons, it can be an opportunity for relaxing or relapsing – you decide A Christmas Poem – By Fordy The pressure of family expectations. The awkward conversations with family members you speak to only once a year, Worrying about money, the money you haven’t got. A […]
Is giving up simply an excuse for not trying hard enough?
This has just popped up on my memories, I came across it four years ago Alcoholic, 41, given a lethal injection because he saw death as his only option. I still remember how the article unsettled me at the time, I even shared the post posting ‘I’m on the fence with this one’. However, […]
How’s your resilience bank account looking
I always had a voice and an opinion, but I rarely voiced it, you see I grew up at a time surrounded with messages such as “kids should be seen and not heard” or “ya made ya bed now in it”. Emotions and feelings were either black or white, there was no room for any […]
Taking responsibility for our own thinking
I’m renown for coining the phase shit happens, it frequently rolls off my tongue, much to the annoyance of my kids. Or another personal favourite is, “It is what it is.” Now my kids do hate this one, I’m sure that sometimes they think I don’t care or I’m not listening but what I am […]
Mind over Chatter
Let me take you back – Remember the ready break advert when the kid comes downstairs, eats his porridge before school, then heads out of the door surrounded by an orange glow, smiling without a worry in the world – I wanted to be that ready break kid, that natural positivity always eluded me. My brain […]
